Sober Moment 8.13.09: The Breakup: Epilogue

It's not all partying and drankin' with D. Kareem.  The sober moment posts are just going to say what's on my mind.  More what I'm thinking; less what I'm doing. 

So, I reached out to SoHo Crush yesterday. We’ve talked since he dumped me in a midtown bar (it’ll be a month tomorrow), but not much. In fact, this was the first contact we’d had in about 3 weeks.

He was way more obsessed with Beyoncé than any man in his 40s should be (but hey, I’m not complaining), and we would make random references to her music. One thing that would have never gotten old was his imitation of Jay Z’s signature “uh”. That “uh” punctuated some of my favorite moments together. Did I mention that Jay Z has two big singles out right now? Yeah.

 

I texted him that I miss him most when I hear Jay Z songs, and his (very long) response started with “Ho[v]!!!” It also included a bit of ‘thinking of you, too’ and a major shocker: he hasn’t drank since the night he dumped me in the midtown bar. I’d never known him to go more than 2 weeks without a drink in the year that we dated!

 

When I asked him about how things were going with the house he was considering, he said he had dropped that one (the day after he dumped me in the midtown bar) and put in a bid for a bigger building in a better location (we’re still talking about the house, right?). “I’ll finally have my home for wayward boys,” mentioning that he’d be Sharonne’s landlord (wasn’t she like class of ’00?).

 

He seemed to be doing so much better since that day. I realize the only perspective I have on his situation is the information he gave me. And as unhealthy and preposterous as it is, I can’t help thinking about how his turn for the seemingly better had coincided (i.e., could seem to have been caused by) our breakup. He had gotten some pretty devastating news about someone close to him days before, and it really shook him up. Our breakup was probably more like a check on the list rather than the goal of the list. But that shit still hurts. Even scrolling back through the old texts to see what day we broke up was hard for me.

 

And Jay Z is still has at least one more single coming out.

Okay, that was pretty heavy. Lighten up! Click here for our gay trip to 6 Flags followed by Baña the Pool Party.

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